Title: | Attraction |
Date: | March 11th, 2002 |
Self Righteous: | 4 |
Opinionated: | 10 |
Simply true: | 3 |
Many people wonder why they are attracted to the people they are attracted to. Being an engineering geek, I know exactly what I'm attracted to, and I could even draw you a graph. ;-) I believe that people have four qualities: physical, mental, emotional and spiritual. I'm still figuring out the spiritual bit, but I find that the other three qualities are what attract me. Those three are all important, and to me, attraction is based on two forms of these qualities, or, perhaps I should call them "measures." Yea, that's probably better. So - the two measures are strength and beauty. And don't take those in the canonical sense, I don't just mean "able to bench press 300 pounds" strength or "able to be a supermodel" beauty, though there's nothing wrong with either of those. I mean it in a more global sense, and applied to each of the qualities. So, physical strength and beauty, mental strength and beauty, emotional strength and beauty. Physical strength isn't just how much you can lift, it includes hardiness and constitution. Physical beauty isn't just a photo, it includes style and fire and expression. And lots of that, I've found, is in the eyes. Mental strength is intelligence as well as problem solving. Mental beauty is philosophy and wisdom. Emotional strength is the ability to hold under pressure. Emotional beauty is a soft heart. Yea, that's it. <geek> Now if only I could google all of humanity for those things. I'd probably press "I'm feeling lucky" for that.. </geek>